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Eileen’s musings is about me, my belief in happy endings, love ever after and so much more.  Eileen’s musings is based on the weddings I perform as a JP, but is a combination of many weddings or an exaggeration of one. It can be a made up ending or a twist of reality. Eileen’s musing can also be my “Cat Tales,” the story I’ve always wanted to write.

As much as I want to write THAT book, I never find the time or the conviction to write every day. I think the story in my head as I lay in bed, unable to sleep. I promise myself to get up the next morning and write, and we all know, that never happens because there are so few posts for you to read.

Watch for more, promises, promises…

long, frustrating but beautiful day

So today I had a wedding at 1:30 p.m. up in Sherman. The weather was to be iffy, so the bride and I decided to make contact this morning. I talked to her at 7:20 a.m. – both of us heard that the rain was to stop by 11 a.m.

Knowing that Sherman was quite a distance from home, I left for Town Hall/Sherman Playhouse at 12:30 p.m. Once I arrived, I met the groom’s family. It was hot, sticky, with a touch of sunshine and many clouds almost feeling ready to burst with the heavy moisture hanging in the air. The women were dressed for the ceremony and the party to follow, in gorgeous dresses, heels and the men in suits and ties. The groom introduced himself and we discussed the location for the ceremony.

Our first choice had a beautiful leafy background but my concern was the women’s heels sinking into the grass.  The groom and I then shuffled the group of more than 20 people over to the playhouse, thinking the dry surface would be the perfect spot. The family took pictures of the four brothers, one sister with mom and dad. We then realized people were arriving to attend a show.

I spoke with the next arrival to the show. She was there to see her granddaughter perform at 2 p.m. She excitedly explained that her 17 year old granddaughter was in the show and she was the designated supporter because the girl’s parents were in Italy. She added that her granddaughter was learning to drive and was using her car. Hmmmm, too much information.

Moving back to Town Hall, we added pumpkins to the benches, created a walkway for the bride and waited, and waited and waited. I spoke with the family, the mother of the bride provided a bit of family history and well as the fact that the groom’s brother was getting married in February. I’m sure my eyes lit up with interest and that light was quickly distinguished when she added in New Zealand.  She then went on to say that she was a construction teacher at a local high school as well as an architect. She has to take a short leave from school because she does not have the time coming.

We then talked about the importance of family. She explained that her family was always early, and she is learning that this trait is not important to everyone, including her soon to be daughter-in-law, who at this point was no where in the area.

The bride finally showed at 2:10, I’m assuming a version of fashionably late, with her family in tow. The groom was asked to turn in order to not see his bride until she walked to where we were standing – and she just stood there. We were now waiting for her brother who was lost – on his way to the wedding.

And we waited some more. I told the groom we have to begin, I cannot just stand here all afternoon. Just as he was going to agree, we were informed the brother had arrived. We again waited as he parked the car and walked over to join us.

We began with the the love and commitment introduction, and the drone buzzed overhead. I know that they had people waiting at the reception, location about 10 minutes away.  I finally had him kiss his bride and sent them on their way. bzzzzzzzzzzzzz.

I left the house early afternoon, at 12:30 and arrived back home at 3:30. Didn’t have to cook, I had a large meal planned, it had to be in the oven by 2 p.m. Take out!



Weddings from way back when, oh the memories…

I was cleaning my office and found pictures from a wedding in 2010. Tara and Dane got married at Lexington Gardens in Newtown,  these pictures were from the Newtown Bee.





I explain to all my couples that most anyplace can be the perfect venue. A flower shop, their favorite restaurant, a backyard or an elaborate wedding venue. One of my favorite spots was a small beach area, the only trouble was that it was in March and it was freezing. They served me champagne to celebrate <3 as they explained that they met at a party right on this spot.


August Weddings

August 19th was a very busy day. The forecast was for rain and I had 2 outdoor weddings scheduled.

I met with Veronica and Daniel the week before to discuss the ceremony. They were getting married at the Bethel municipal gazebo at 10 a.m. with 40 of their close friends and family. If Town Hall was open, they would have access to chairs but since it was a Saturday morning, they planned on decorating the gazebo, renting chairs, bringing music and flowers,

I arrived early and met the photographer, Alexandra from Ridgefield from Ridgefield and the videographer, a young man named Jake and his dad, George.

The gazebo was nicely decorated with sheer curtains and baby’s breath.  I spoke with Daniel and we waited for the bride to arrive.  The morning was perfect, a butterfly hovered and when Veronica arrived, the entrance was perfectly orchestrated, with a ring bearer, a flower girl and many attendants.

I began the ceremony as planned and when Veronica was to say her “I do” after reading her vows, the music began and she sang, “Two words” beautifully. A first for me, a surprise for Daniel and a huge success for the newlyweds. The wedding was streamed to the Phillipines for the mom to see, and a large wedding and reception is planned for three years from now, when everyone can be together. <3

When I got home, I placed a call to Go Daddy because the Association for Richter Arts website was gone since July 1. The Danbury Library no longer maintained Danbury.org and the site went down in flames and no smoke. We did not even know it was gone until I looked for some information.

Two hours later I had a semblance of a web site in place and published before I left for the second wedding of the day at 5 p.m., check out www.richterarts.org – YAAY!

Candlewood Inn is a gorgeous wedding venue. The picture included was from the Candlewood Inn site and was taken by J. Castro.

Alice and David met with me at Starbucks in May to discuss the ceremony, repeat after me vows and a wine box ceremony were the decisions of the moment.

I re-sent the draft with updates and promised them a beautiful day. By 6 p.m., my arrival time, the day was still absolutely perfect. Boats out on the water, blue skies and fluffy clouds with no sign of rain anywhere.

The wedding started on time, the wine box was set on the table in the gazebo and the mike worked. Another very satisfied couple and new friends <3

Hello world!

Welcome to to the new and maybe improved “Eileen’s Musings.” For those of you new to my thoughts, my past musings are listed on eileencoladarci.blogspot.com. I had a lot of fun there and will now be trying out my new Go Daddy site. More soon to follow.